About Sacred Pauses


Jacob wrestling with the angel

Never let any preacher tell you that you’re a worthless sinner.

Born and raised in the Western Christian tradition, called to preach at 16, then moved on to a deeper study of spiritual growth and learning. I have always been surrounded by the spirituality of love and INclusion, and work/speak with many people of different (or no) spiritual backgrounds. Now a minister in a Church Without Walls I specialize in reaching out to the outsider, the unloved, the misunderstood, and the least-expected in the Greater Kingdom. I work as an inter-faith “street minister,” writing from the Christian tradition. I am a member of PFLAG, proponent of gay marriage rites, and work always for the inclusion of all people in the kingdom of God – no exceptions and no excuses.

In the dream where you show up to school naked, why do you never go swimming?

I grew up in the mountains, so none of the schools had pools: it would all just slosh out one side and roll down hill, pissing off the next city down.

A Short Credo

This snippet is taken from a work titled A Course in Miracles. It’s quite a ponderous tome, and there are many pages inside that do not follow my own spiritual beliefs. I’ve read the book as a point of interest but never “took the course.” However, if I were to point to a central raison d’etre for my own life and vocation, it is from those pages:

I am here to be truely helpful.
I am here to represent Him who sent me.
I do not worry about what to say or what to do,
because He who sent me
will direct me.
I am content to be wherever He wishes,
knowing that He is there with me.
I will be healed,
as I let Him teach me to be healed.



  • writing
  • prayer
  • spirituality
  • gay marriage
  • centering prayer
  • preaching
  • pulpit communications
  • group dynamics
  • consulting
  • self growth

Favorite Movies

  • Beautiful Thing
  • Come Undone
  • Latter Days
  • Into Great Silence
  • The Shoes of the Fisherman
  • The Lion in Winter
  • Soapdish
  • Transamerica

Favorite Music

  • J.S. Bach
  • Armin van Buuren
  • “On the Transcendence of Souls”
  • “Nixon in China”
  • Bette Midler
  • “Gaither Homecoming Friends”
  • QAF Soundtrack

2 thoughts on “About Sacred Pauses

  1. Hello,

    I found the link to this site listed on a gay web site. I would really like to know if you are for real? Please understand that I mean no disrespect.

    I found out that being gay is not accepted in the Christian tradition and in every church I have ever been in has reinforced this belief. I have heard the hatred come from the preacher, and minister along with the other members of the church.

    I was raised in the church going to Sunday school every week when I was a young chiled and have learned that you never ever admit to being gay in church. Please prove me wrong.

    Thank you for taking the time to read this note and again I mean no disrespect.


    • Hi there Phil –

      Many MANY apologies for taking to very long to reply, but I’ve been a bit under the weather with my various illness “processes.” I was in the midst of a 23 day stay at Duke hospital when you wrote. I had to pull in as much Sacred thought and prayer as I could just then.

      And I’m back among the blogging again 🙂 and found your question this morning. I have to say that the sincerity of your comments made me weep:

      Yes, indeed, I am QUITE real! SacredPauses.com is a work of love for me, not an act of e-commerce. God takes care of us in other ways for that stuf 😉

      Looking back many many years to my college days when I wanted to be an Episcopal priest, I said “no” to God during my postulancy because at the time -early 80’s – even I thought such a path was “inappropriate” (remember this was less than a decade since the Episcopal church approved the ordination of women, which went over in some dioceses like the proverbial “fart in church.” 🙂

      Before I joined the Episcopal church (and this isn’t an endorsement for that particular denom., just where I landed) I too was in one of those churches where, if it had even come up in conversation, would have been a NO! to the Nth power. My church still debates a lot of the gay/church “issues” but I have chosen to not listen to it. Over the past 10 years or so it has just become noise to me, like a pesty mosquito.

      That hatred you see/feel/hear is a bad mix of personal attitudes, preachers putting words in God’s mouth (who are WE to say what God likes? Bill and I were talking for some reason about the Phelps family and decided that if God REALLY hated fags as much as Fred ad nauseum say, do we think that such folks would even exist? No, I think not.

      Thinking about God’s creation of … well, everything, I look back at Psalm 104:26. The whole song is one of absolute happiness, and 26 is my favorite (I use the NRSV translation) as it speaks of God creating the great leviathan in the sea, just for the joy of it! Sorry Fred but I have to go with a laughin fun God who creates Leviathans for yukks… and then ME!

      Don’t worry too much about [alleged] “Christians” who hate you/us. If we are to believe the old “coming to the pearly gates” story, then I expect that when I get there, the question to get in the door will be…”When I was naked, did you give me clothes? When I was hungry did you give me food? When I was homeless and cold, did you find me a home?

      Gay in church? I suppose I was since Day 1 of my life. And have been Out and Gay in church since I was 18 and understood the responsibility and dangers that came with it.

      I wish you well in your travels. Trust me that being gay in church is a much easier life than being gay and Hiding it when at church. I got to the point that it was just to painful to hide the nice person I really am. And then started the SECOND process of discernment (listening for God’s call) that went on for 20-some-odd years. And now… here I am 🙂

      – Scribe

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